Tag: loneliness

The difference between being “alone” and “lonely”

AndreaLeave a comment

9.7.21 @ 6:25 PM

Oh right, hi again, it’s been a while, I’m sorry for being gone for so long, it’s been an interesting year.

But let’s get straight to the point. Being lonely vs. being alone.

I used to think and used to be comfortable with choosing to be alone. I always had friends, but as an introvert, I enjoyed having time to myself. To think, to wonder, to just be without the presence of another person. Things have changed though.

I recently moved into my dorm, and I finally for the first time in many years, have my OWN room. The thought of it was exciting at first. But then I actually moved in, and 3 days in, I’m starting to feel lonely…

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It’s honestly kind of strange, I haven’t ever felt lonely before. I’ve definitely felt bored, but I have never or at least don’t remember ever feeling lonely, wishing that I could just be with someone, no matter what time of the day or what I’m doing.

Maybe I got used to being with my parents all the time. I’m not really sure.

As of now, I’m going to try to distract this feeling of loneliness by getting stuff done. Like stuff I actually need and want to do. So here I am!

What are your thoughts on lonliness and being alone? Is there a difference between the two for you?

Until next time,

I should be studying, but it’s been such a long time :’)

AndreaLeave a comment

03.01.21 @ 0044

Hello to the people who read this very inconsistent blog, I apologize to you and myself for not dropping in more frequently to stop and jot down a thought.

It’s been a couple difficult months for me and my loved ones – for a great variety of reasons, so I feel like I haven’t had the ability to just sit, think, and wonder without having to worry, panic, or cry about some issue.

Thinking about the past couple years though, Jan-April seems to be the most difficult months for me physically, mentally, and emotionally, and I wonder if the state of this world right now is just making things 100x worse.

Lately, I’ve been spending a lot more time to myself, I haven’t talked to friends in a long time, and I’ve kept to myself for the most part even with my family. I don’t feel lonely, but rather, appreciate very much this aloneness that I haven’t given myself for the past year. I think because I knew that I had to stay home and knew that I couldn’t go out and see friends, I made up for it by calling friends weekly to make sure I stay social so I don’t lose my sense of reality and you know… life (humans are social creatures). BUT after this never ending avalanche of issues started arising since January, everything just became difficult to express and at some point I was sort of emotionless, out of focus, and lost all motivation. Given my situation and just everything going on, I think I naturally tried to give myself space from talking to really anyone about anything personal. To be honest, I really just didn’t want to.

but here I am now 🙂 my aloneness has helped me think more about myself, my values, my motivation, my goals, and the many many hobbies that I still want to do but will never have time to do, but still.. thinking about them make me happy. I think my English got weird. I don’t think my grammar is correct. oh well.

I’m thinking about re-reading my old posts and updating them – maybe my thoughts have changed?

Just out of curiosity, how do you feel? Do you feel lonely? Or are you like me, who thought that I would be too lonely if I didn’t reach out to people, but actually overcompensated, and ended up being a mind poop while other issues arose in my life, and actually craved for time completely alone?

until next time… which will hopefully be very very soon 🙂